When are Expectations of our Kids Healthy or Harmful?

boy_homework_mom_cookingThis week we were talking with our son about his grades, all Bs and two Cs, and I joked, “I always thought you would get A’s!”

It wasn’t funny like I thought.

I apologized, as I know he does his homework every night. But, then I asked him, “How did that make you feel.”  (This is a magical question I’ve come to know).

He said, “It makes me feel stupid, like I’m not good enough.”

Woah!

I take it back. Is it too late to take it back?

My crash lesson woke me up to the fact that my expectations can have power, and sometimes negative power to discourage and deflate my kid’s self-image.

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